Keeping up appearances

While LATAM men are embarking on a journey of self-reflection, for many it remains critical to be sleek in appearance at all times. In Brazil, this means keeping their hair ‘na régua’ – or sharply shaped. In Colombia, the desire to keep up appearances translates into having manicured, subtly shiny nails.

In order to ensure their grooming remains up to par, many LATAM men are turning to subscription services – a concept that the Western beauty and grooming sector has been slow to embrace but offers a way to build loyalty. Examples include Brazil’s John Six Barber Shop and Natu’s Club, where customers pay a monthly fee ranging from £14.50 ($19.30, €17) for haircuts to £17 ($23, €20) for hair and beard trims.

Nail care is also helping to change masculinity narratives. As Puerto Rican rapper and idol Bad Bunny explains: ‘Que le ponga un poco de color a mis uñas no dice nada de mi sexualidad ni de mi masculinidad,’ – ‘That I add a little colour to my nails does not say anything about my sexuality or my masculinity.’ Best known for his painted nails and bold dress, Bad Bunny has been vocal about not limiting oneself by aesthetics. He preaches respect above all, and has become a welcome figure among the global LGBTQ+ community.

Emotional educators

When it comes to perceptions and emotions, ideals of masculinity continue to affect how men actually feel about themselves and others. A poll of 20,000 Brazilian men by lifestyle and education platform Papo de Homem shows that 72% of respondents have been taught not to show any weaknesses.

A growing number of initiatives are now emerging to deconstruct ingrained attitudes and help men to embrace and face their vulnerabilities. In Colombia, Bogotá’s culture office has launched Calm Line, a hotline fighting violence against women, which encourages men to call and speak to psychologists to better understand and control their emotions and actions. In its first 10 months, almost 2,000 men called in. Similarly, Grupo Reflexivo de Homens – the Male Reflection Group – is a behavioural ‘rehab’ service for men fined by law after offences against women. The programme's male participants discuss their role in society, using it as an educational space for men to unlearn their toxic beliefs, start afresh and carry forward a new perspective.

Elsewhere, private consultancy MEMOH – a play on ‘memo’ and ‘homem’ – seeks to promote gender equity in corporate environments, giving companies and their employees access to similar ‘reflective groups’ that promote conversations on healing and evolving attitudes. So far, MEMOH has worked with Netflix, Facebook, Ambev, among other companies in Brazil.

Cultural commentary is also growing in this vein. Fabio Manzoli is a Brazilian speaker whose awakening came after years of depression due to toxic masculinity. He built his platform online to support others, offering mentorship for companies and individuals seeking help. His latest project, Travessia (Crossing), is a guided rite of passage to healthy manhood. It is launching in March 2022 and is a program focused on the development of emotional intelligence and a more conscious sexuality among young men.

Harnessing sexual health

Conversations about pornography’s impact on male sexual behaviour, health and wellbeing remain pertinent in Latin America, with many men fixating on penetrative sex through the lens of porn. Pornhub data from the region in 2020 reveals its highest mobile traffic came from Mexico (89%), Colombia (86%), Brazil (85%) and Argentina (85%). As Carlos Eduardo Carrion, a Brazilian psychiatrist and sex therapist, explains: ‘Men without any sexual experience may feel this [pornography] is how it should go. Others, in a smaller percentage, see their ideas of disregard for the partner reinforced.’

Porn’s local impact is greater, however. It also reinforces views of anal sex as a submissive act reserved for homosexual men and women, with ramifications for men’s sexual wellbeing. While 95% of Brazilians recognise the importance of rectal exams for the early diagnosis of prostate cancer, 9% believe that the exam interferes with male sexuality and 11% think that a rectal examination can leave a man sexually impotent.

Nascent platforms are seeking to break this wall and make conversations about men’s sexual health mainstream. Founded in 2020, digital platform Omens aims to help the 69% of Brazilian men who have experienced sexual health issues, connecting users directly with urologists.

Focusing on education, Cláudio Serva is the founder of Prazerele, an initiative supporting LATAM men to deconstruct sexism through positive attitudes to sexuality. His latest class, Sexual Potency and Healthy Masculinity, offers direction for a healthier, more pleasurable masculinity that frees men from sexual anxiety and porn addiction.

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